Self Like Parts can be understood as the most creative and healthy and functional parts that we have. The Parts that we most often identify as who we are. The Parts that we most rely on to get through life. And they often have some of our best qualities. What we usually think of as our Best Self. Us at our Best. When we are empathic. Caring for others. Doing good. So it is no wonder that when we are embodied in that Part we may think we are in Self.

I do believe that Self Like Parts often carry burdens as well. But their burdens may be more hidden. One of their burdens may be the Cultural Burden of individualism which keeps them feeling disconnected and separated from others and from Self Energy, and keeps them feeling like they have to be the one responsible for the person’s survival.

And here is where we need to understand the concept of Self Led Parts. Parts that are Unburdened are Self Led. Parts that come to be aware of their own connection to Self Energy and their True Nature are Self Led. They are no longer only motivated by Fear or the need for Approval. The basic human needs are still there. And our Parts still need to stand up for us and our needs. But when they are Self Led, there is a flow of Self Energy that connects them to the Larger Self and enables them to come from Love and Connection and have a much larger Picture and Perspective. It gives them a sense of calm.It gives them a sense of no longer being so alone with whatever they are dealing with.

We need to deeply understand the story and the journey of our own Self Like Part or Parts and how they came to play the role they play in our life. When we have fully understood and appreciated these parts, and we give them the appreciation they deserve, then we can also help them reconnect with their own Self Energy as well as recognize the Larger Self Energy that is also available to support them.

Therapists are often unsure how to respond to clients when they feel their clients are in a Self Like Part instead of “in Self”. This moment can trigger a doubting Part in the therapist. When the therapist has come to befriend and value their own Self Like Parts they will also be more comfortable doing the same with their clients.