Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
Dec. 3 & 4, 2025
IFS level: Advanced
We distinguish 3 Levels of knowledge and experience in IFS therapy:
- Beginner:
You don’t know what IFS therapy is or you are at the beginning of your IFS journey and want to know the basics of the model. - Intermediate:
You already know the basics – you’ve done an introductory workshop or course and want to learn more. - Advanced:
You’ve completed a number of IFS workshops and/or an IFS Institute Online Circle and/or a Level 1 training and are ready to dive deeper into the model.
About this workshop:
2-Day Workshop
Live + Recording
8 hours in total
Paul Neustadt
Experiential activities:
Guided meditations
Q&A sessions
Experiential exercises
Personal Practice
Early Bird Price until November 25th
Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
When we realize we are blended with a Self Like Part we don’t need to feel embarrassed or ashamed of this. Instead we can see this as an opportunity to Befriend and Deeply Understand one of our most valuable Parts and then help that Part discover our Self Energy.
As a result of taking this workshop, you will have the opportunity to:
Gain a clearer sense of how to recognize and differentiate Self-Like Parts from Self Energy.
Experience more ease in relating to Self-Like Parts — shifting from struggle to curiosity and compassion.
Deepen your understanding of the stories and hidden burdens these Parts carry, and ways to help them reconnect with Self Energy.
Explore approaches for supporting Self-Like Parts through Explicit and Implicit Direct Access, so they can feel seen, valued, and understood.
Cultivate awareness of your own Self-Like and Triggered Parts, learning to stay grounded and connected to Self in the process.
Practically, this helps you stay grounded, discern subtle nuances between Self and Self-Like Parts, and guide your clients with greater clarity and presence.
Day 1 – How to befriend Self Like Parts
During this session you will:
- Discern Self-Like Parts from Self Energy with greater clarity.
- Shift from struggling with a client who is blended with a Self-Like Part to befriending that Part with curiosity and compassion.
- Understand the value of Self-Like Parts — and recognize the importance of hearing their stories and uncovering their hidden burdens.
- Support Self-Like Parts to help them connect with both their own Self Energy and the client’s, and support them in collaborating with the client’s Self Energy.
- Introduce Explicit Direct Access with Self-Like Parts to help clients better understand these Parts and allow the Parts to feel valued and deeply seen.
Day 2 – How to work with Self Like Parts
During this session you will:
- Learn when Self Like Parts show up and how to notice them.
- Discover how to use Implicit Direct Access to avoid getting into a struggle with the Part and to help the Part feel seen, understood, and valued.
- See how Direct Access can be a step towards having Self Like Parts unblend, get in touch with their own Self Energy, and become open to recognizing the client’s Self Energy.
- Learn the importance of normalizing Self Like Parts for your client.
- Recognize your Self Like Therapist Parts and gain their trust in Self Energy.
- Learn the importance of recognizing your Triggered Parts showing up and being with them.
Date & Time:
December 3 & 4, 2025
The workshop will take place over two consecutive days: Wednesday and Thursday — with each session lasting 4 hours.
08:00-12:00 PST
Los Angeles
11:00-15:00 EST
New York
16:00-20:00 GMT
London
17:00-21:00 CET
Warsaw
Check the start time in your time zone here.
Feel the Collective Self Energy
A live session isn’t just watching – it’s being part of something.
Connect with Paul and others in real time to:
- Feel the Collective Self Energy,
- Be present and engaged during the meeting,
- Connect with other participants,
- Get a sense of belonging,
- Ask questions and participate in discussions.
This is your last chance this year to be with us live for an IFS workshop – you’re warmly invited.
Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
2-Day Online Workshop with Paul Neustadt, IFS Lead Trainer — December 3 & 4, 2025
Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
2-Day Online Workshop with Paul Neustadt, IFS Lead Trainer — December 3 & 4, 2025
Gain a better understanding of the value of Self Like Parts as well as the importance of understanding their story and their hidden burdens.
By joining “Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts“, you’ll receive:
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Access to live, online workshop series:
Participate in experiential sessions led by an experienced IFS facilitator, where you’ll learn and practice essential skills.
-
Unlimited access to workshop recordings:
Revisit the content anytime, allowing you to absorb the material at your own pace without time constraints.
-
Comprehensive training materials:
Receive ready-to-print resources that offer valuable tools and references for your practice.
-
Certificate of Completion:
Acknowledges your commitment to professional growth and enhances your therapeutic skills.
Early Bird Price until November 25th
Sign up by November 25 to save $90 — that’s 30% off the regular price.
Meet the trainer
Paul Neustadt
Paul Neustadt, MSS, LICSW, is a senior IFS Co-Lead Trainer. He also co-leads a monthly seminar for IFS Level 1 training graduates focused on integrating the skills learned in the Level 1 training.
He has led workshops on Self Led Parenting, the Therapeutic Relationship in IFS, Direct Access: An Essential Skill of IFS, IFS and Climate Change, and The Gifts of Our Exiles.
For 17 years Paul was director of a community counselling and prevention program for children, adolescents, and their families. Paul has also worked in a college counselling centre and community mental health centre, and taught couples and family therapy in a family therapy institute and two graduate programs.
In his private practice, Paul now specializes in IFS consultation, both group and individual.
I believe that human beings are Souls embodied in human bodies with human personalities in the form of multiple parts. And our Souls come into this life with gifts and a life purpose and with lessons to learn, all of which need to happen through embodiment in our body and our parts. I believe that all of our parts contain aspects of our Soul or True Nature or Individual Self, as well as elements of our Universal Self.
Paul Neustadt
Satisfaction Guarantee
If you’re not fully satisfied after attending the first day of our 2-day online workshop, simply let us know before the second session begins, and we’ll offer a full refund—no questions asked.
What participants are saying about Paul’s previous workshop series
Helping Self Like Parts Discover Self Energy
We need to deeply understand the story and the journey of our own Self Like Part or Parts and how they came to play the role they play in our life. When we have fully understood and appreciated these parts, and we give them the appreciation they deserve, then we can also help them reconnect with their own Self Energy as well as recognize the Larger Self Energy that is also available to support them.
Therapists are often unsure how to respond to clients when they feel their clients are in a Self Like Part instead of “in Self”. This moment can trigger a doubting Part in the therapist. When the therapist has come to befriend and value their own Self Like Parts they will also be more comfortable doing the same with their clients.
Appreciating the Value of Self Like Parts
Self Like Parts can be understood as the most creative, healthy and functional parts that we have. The Parts that we most often identify as who we are. The Parts that we most rely on to get through life. And they often have some of our best qualities. What we usually think of as our Best Self. When we are empathic. Caring for others. Doing good. So it is no wonder that when we are blended with that Part we may think we are in Self. But Self Like Parts do still carry burdens and need help reconnecting to their own Self Energy.
Completion of IFS Level 1 Training is not required
At the same time, you need to know the fundamentals of IFS, as we don’t offer basic didactics about the model during this workshop.
Make sure that you:
- Have completed a thorough introductory course/workshop about IFS or the IFSI Online Circle,
- Have a desire to embody the IFS Model – deepen the knowledge of your own system, and learn tools that aid you in this process.
How it works
Each of the workshops will be held live, on the Zoom platform.
You will receive the link to the Zoom meeting along with the password one day before each workshop session. There will be technical support available.
In 5 days after each live session, you will receive access to the recording. The recording will be available in your Life Architect Account, so you can go through it at your own pace.
Remember that you get unlimited access to the workshop recordings, which means you will be able to view them in a year or even in a few years.
Experiential activities
This workshop emphasizes hands-on learning through experiential activities designed to deepen your understanding of Self-Like Parts. These activities foster personal connection and collaborative learning, enabling you to actively engage in practice. Here’s what you can look forward to:
Experiential exercises
Q&A sessions
Small group sharing
Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
2-Day Online Workshop with Paul Neustadt, IFS Lead Trainer — December 3 & 4, 2025
Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts
2-Day Online Workshop with Paul Neustadt, IFS Lead Trainer — December 3 & 4, 2025
Gain a better understanding of the value of Self Like Parts as well as the importance of understanding their story and their hidden burdens.
By joining “Befriending and Understanding Self-Like Parts“, you’ll receive:
-
Access to live, online workshop series:
Participate in experiential sessions led by an experienced IFS facilitator, where you’ll learn and practice essential skills.
-
Unlimited access to workshop recordings:
Revisit the content anytime, allowing you to absorb the material at your own pace without time constraints.
-
Comprehensive training materials:
Receive ready-to-print resources that offer valuable tools and references for your practice.
-
Certificate of Completion:
Acknowledges your commitment to professional growth and enhances your therapeutic skills.
Early Bird Price until November 25th
Sign up by November 25 to save $90 — that’s 30% off the regular price.